For almost 40 years I have lived it and breathed it. I have fought with the Scorpio nature’s extremes, tested the limits and have also fallen down many dark and murky abysses. I have hurt others and been hurt myself … over and over again.

I must admit … my nature is very emotional, and at times I am extremely sensitive. My parents provided me with genetics of a hard outer shell, and an inside that is vulnerable and soft, similar to my real world arthropod relatives. As a Scorpio I understand beyond what is on the surface of life and sometimes, it can be both a curse and a blessing.

What truly liberates me is the depths of my understanding. However, it is what hurts me most also. While others are out enjoying the pleasures of life, I am most likely working hard at home to try to overcome some sort of obstacle, whether it’s been self-created or not.

But everything is self-created, isn’t it? That’s what a Scorpio thinks. Actually, I know so and when you know better, that’s when the trouble begins.

It’s the time when self stinging is most likely to escalate and this is the time when addictions can occur as a way of numbing the pain and trying to stop those self inflicted tendencies that I often have, or as a means of escaping. At some point a majority of Scorpios figure that the addiction is another mechanism that is self inflicted. Therefore, this trap needs to be overcome, too.

After we get out of our dependency and addiction cycles, then we realize that we have returned to our starting point of pain and torture, along with the emotional upheavals that never end and the intense passion, that most of the world would be happy to have more of, if only there was a way for them to tap into it and then harness it to use for themselves. We Scorpios breathe it … we live it!

Learning how to manage this high level of passion does take perseverance and strength. And it needs to be effectively channeled. Otherwise you’ll get burned by it. It is also the major reason why the other zodiac signs misunderstand us so much and why we tend to doubt ourselves.

Being a Scorpio can be very tricky … but loving a Scorpio is even trickier!

If you’d like to really love a Scorpio like me, you need to have a strong desire. There’s no way to do it half way. I’ll quickly get rid of you, and I’ll know when you are really trying that hard. For a Scorpio, that’s a very unattractive trait! I don’t have patience for any uncertainty, and when it comes to things like stealing, cheating and lying I tend to have a zero tolerance policy. When I sense that something like this might be taking place, I’ill cut you loose from my life … secretly and quickly.

I carefully plot before making any final decisions. But once I’m sure about something, I don’t look back. Once it’s done, it’s done. If there is any zodiac sign that is familiar with finality, it’s the sweet Scorpio. I think it sounds kind of scary to others. It is pretty daunting and lethal. So why would anyone want to take a chance on a Scorpio?

Some people may think that the bad reputation which Scorpios have in the astrological world is deserved.

It might seem like we need to blatantly be wrapped up in caution tape. However, don’t jump to conclusions so quickly. There is greatness in mystery. The depth that the Scorpio’s nature possesses will be rewarding to anybody who makes the effort and takes the time to love us and do it well.

Don’t misunderstand us. We are very thorough (which is a huge understatement), and that carries over to everything that we do, and in particular with our relationships. We just ask for your trust and loyalty. From the Scorpio perspective, that really isn’t a lot to ask. It’s simple. It’s basic. The fundamentals.You just do and then you’re in for life. If you fail, then you are out very quickly.

Need a quick guide on how to deal with a Scorpio like me?
Sure, here you are …

Mean what you say and say what you mean and follow through and consistency. Speak the truth, be unique and dare to be different. Share authentically. Stand up on your own terms. don’t forget, we are able to tell 100 percent of the time when you are not legitimate. Always be compassionate and kind and don’t ever play games. With a Scorpio, you’ll never win that way. Never! Sting and let yourself be stung. We’re able to sense manipulation from miles away, so don’t even try it.

Let’s talk about loyalty. First of all, you need to be true to yourself. Then be loyal and true to a Scorpio. This will make life a lot easier, when dealing with me.

Honestly share and communicate your feelings. You’re likely to get tossed if you clam up and you need to be actively engaged in personal growth. Keeping up with all of our constant transformations takes a lot of work.

If you stay around long enough, you’ll experience the sweetness of a true partnership and depths of our love of a true Scorpio. However, this takes time, so you must be patient. No one is as passionate or intense as a Scorpio. We bring it strong, when we bring it. We also love sharing our gifts, love and passion with others .. that is, if we trust you. For a Scorpio, that usually means just a small circle of friends. It might appear as a Scorpio has lots of friends. However, if you ask him, he will say he has only one or two really close friends.

If you are comforting and play small, this perfectly fine with us. We just need our small circle of friends and support to be real. Not too many people are brave enough to be able to stand at the dark abyss along side of us or withstand all of our constant transformations.

It definitely takes a real special individual to feel comfortable with the fire, mysticism, passion, emotion, depth and darkness that I possess. Like with anything else in life, the more effort you are able to put in, the more you are able to get from the experience. You will need to put in lots of effort and also be willing to grow. However, the rewards are worth all of the blood, sweat and tears. We’ll make it worth all of your energy and time.

This I guarantee you … as a Scorpio.